Is friendship losing its grip?
Friendship is one of the deepest relationships and it grows mostly when you are face to face.
Long distance friendship is for a purpose and as soon as the purpose ends it shallows the relationship.
Earlier we use to meet and plan for things. Now we plan to meet.
So nothing new is lost in the world, except maybe friendship.
A decision taken based on point data is not concrete. Whereas if you have data of continuous points i.e line, the decision will be more accurate.
Similarly beating yourself on point failures like not passing an exam or an interview is futile. It’s the continuous growth (line – even if it’s curvy) that matters.
Hence a line is always bigger than a point.
Will it work if we follow the process? Not necessarily.
So should we follow the process? Yes at least if we failed we have an excuse just like all others, we failed because of the process. But if it’s anyway failing, why not choose your path, and change the process, try to make it work.
Experimentation will give us better motivation to continue, even if we fail at least we tried something different, something new.
When we solve puzzles we envisage forward and backward to look at all the options.
Life to some extent does that to us, it creates such puzzles for us to solve.
Hence it helps to solve puzzles and keep ourselves agile mentally & psychologically.
Hard days become the most memorable days from the past.
Those are the days when you applied yourself and came out successful.
Those are the days when you got support from loved ones and gave them support.
Those are the days when you thought, why it is? why me? And got answered.
Those are the days when you learned most about yourself.
Those are the days that gave you confidence, I have done it and I can do it again.
Those are the days that created history.
Those are the days to remember…
If you are expecting the scene to change, it will not happen by itself.
We need to do it ourselves, keep doing it, and keep working on it, someday it will change. You never know how closer or farther you are.
It’s like digging a hole in the ground for water, keep digging, keep digging till you get it, in the interim we can guess that water is coming, but in the end, you will get it, when you get it.
So keep working and the scene will change…
Being Rational is one of the most important qualities to making good/long-term decisions in life.
So how to drive ourselves to be more rational, here are some of the pointers from “The laws of human nature” book:
• Know yourself thoroughly – Your emotion thrive on being ignorant, so know yourself, and look inward.
• Examine your emotions to their roots – Whatever emotion anger, fear, greed, envy, etc., let it settle within. Dig below any trigger points to see where they started. Record in a journal if possible.
• Increase your reaction time – This comes thru practice, don’t snap immediate reactions, wait, and physically remove yourself from the place. Sleep on it for a day or two, and let it subside.
• Accept people as facts – We continually judge people, wishing they were something that they are not. We want to change them according to the way we think and act. Make acceptance of human nature as radical as possible.
• Find the optimal balance of thinking and emotion – It’s like the horse and the rider. The horse is our emotional nature continually urging us to move, but without the rider, it cannot be guided.
• Love the rational – Let’s not see the path to rationality as painful and ascetic. Let’s see more as mastering your self in a deep way.
By taming the emotional self and being rational you are less consumed by petty conflicts and considerations. Your actions are more effective, which leads to less turmoil. You have more mental space to be creative. You feel more in control.
You can increase your headlights but cannot outrun them. Even if you try there are high chances you will meet an accident.
Thru knowledge, thru mistakes, and thru experiences, you can increase the range of the headlights and take a calculated risk of your path ahead. Which is what most successful people try and achieve.
So don’t outrun your headlights but try to increase the range.
We do many things to satisfy our ego.
If we can reduce even half of it we will get the time to solve real problems. Moreover, we get to solve our problems not borrowed problems because of ego.
Whenever you say too busy to try something new or do something; think twice you might be busy massaging your ego, whereas real problems and real life is running away.
So get out of the ego and come to the real world.
Today being wealthy means different things to different people.
For someone being wealthy means can buy what they want (PS: not “need” but want)
For someone being wealthy means showing off things to neighbors.
For someone being wealthy means the freedom to do whatever they want, whenever they want.
For someone being wealthy means freedom of expression.
So being wealthy is a relative term. And there will always be someone who will be wealthier than you and there will always be someone lesser wealthier than you.
