Life

Short term vs Long term thinking…

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Short term thinking is around immediate needs and outcomes. It may be a span of a couple of days or months or maybe a year.
 
Long term thinking is much longer, spanning maybe around the next 5-10 years or more. It is more defining for our goals and careers.
 
Short-term thinking has problems:
 

Mind loops: It leads to a lot of restless within and keeps sending us in mind loop. It can be for “Upcoming Exams” or “Appraisal review meeting” or “Job Interview” or “Shopping”.

No learning: It leads to prepare for Exams (Or an event for short term goal) for the purpose of getting good ranking not to learn from it. If I pass this exam I am set for life, which is not true. Even after getting good score in Exam or passing for Job Interview you have to work hard to succeed. Similarly, a failed Job interview does not mean failure in the career. 

End of life event(s) really?: It leads to disheartening feeling as if nothing is left in life because of single failure whereas if you fail that does not mean end of life. It just means you need to try harder or may be change your career path. Life is much bigger and have unlimited choices for us to choose from. 

Most of our time goes in Short-term thinking leading to Analysis Paralysis (Almost 99% time). And a lot of our jealousy, stress and immediate reactions stumps out from this.
 
Investing more in Long term gives us more power to realize our goals and attain success & serenity.
 

We should never forget these:

Short-term thinking repeated, again and again, doesn’t lead to Long-term thinking.

Short-term success may not actually lead to Long-term success.

Even though mind almost think’s in shorter terms, long term thought process and plan matters most in life.

 

Skin in the game…

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Our highest level of motivation comes from “Skin in the game”. We keep procrastinating the task which does not have any kind risk for us and most of the times end up not doing it.
 
“Skin in the game” or level of risk, is also most critical for best performance. Almost all our best performances come under huge pressure because of the level of risk in it (When Failing leads to a huge loss for us). Think about exam preparations, interviews or a presentation.
 
Hence to motivate anyone including self, find or define the “Skin in the game” in it and our best performance will follow.

Stop thinking …yes its tradeoff

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We waste so much time thinking why of everything?
 
Why can’t Mr.X come regularly for work?
 
Why she cannot handle this independently?
 
Why I have to every time repeat this for them?
 
Why should I get the groceries?
 
Why can’t I travel to more places?
 
Why don’t I have a bigger house, better cars?`
 
Every want or need comes with lots of why’s,
 
If you want someone else to do things, u need to tradeoff your money with them.
 
If you want someone to handle things independently, u need to tradeoff in making them learn.
 
If you want to buy a bigger car and house? U need to work hard and tradeoff with binge-watching or leisure time.
 
So either be content with the present and “Quench your wants within” or if aspiring more….stop thinking and tradeoff. 
Another way is instead of why’s, find a bigger dream for ur doings. Yes, everything may not factor in around the dreams but in the long run, it will connect the dots.

Let them say

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Never let other people stop u, Let them say
 
Because:
 
#99.9% of the times it has no meaning, they are trapped in their Self (Expectations, Importance …blah..blah) hence the repertoire. We are being a fool to try and find meaning in it.
 
#0.1% is genuine feedback for growth or wellness use this to your advantage.
 
It’s easy to differentiate follow ur instincts, not the brain.
 
Questioning everything what others say erodes self. Not allowing to find our calling in life. Just keep doing, be relentless like a child and let them say.
 
Remember this to ur core:
 
“एक कान से सुनकर दूसरे कान से निकाल देना”: = “Hear from one ear and let it go from other ear without any interpretations and judgments”

Thinking in the box..

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If you look in the pasts and recall when have you taken the right decisions in a life-changing situation? For example, while buying a house where you have so many choices, you were able to select a house with good returns. Or choosing between two jobs, you selected the best one and are doing good in your career path.
 
The difference between a successful person and a failed one is that successful person takes a lot of good decisions. Implying that if we can make good decisions we will be successful. There is an old saying in Hindi “पैसा पैसे को खींचता है” meaning “Rich people keeps getting richer” reason they keep getting richer is by making right decisions confidently. Making the right decisions and the right time!
 
So how do we improve our chances of making the right decisions?
 
We need to let go of all our emotions and past history, for example, while buying a house do not compare with neighbors, but spend time in researching the area and future prospects. Take all the facts, information of the areas around, nearby offices, why u want to buy investment purpose or living purpose, etc….
 
Start “Thinking in a box” remove all the clutter, irrelevant, emotional thoughts and think very objectively.
 
It’s not easy to remove the clutter and have a free mind to decide, but if we can, most of our decisions can or will be successful.
 
So let’s try and use this framework of mind to make a better future for ourselves.

Yes, Its Good to compare with Others…

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Don’t compare with others! That’s what everyone keeps telling. But Why not?
 
I say its good to compare with others, but do it with this small shift in mindset.
 
Compare yourself with others in the Future. While comparing ask this question to urself:-
 
In the next 3 years where I will be and where s/he will be?
 
Do this for every comparison you make, big or small. You will be achieving much higher success thru this and be more determined to see yourself at your bests!
 

Roads or Buildings?

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Road: A road is a thoroughfare, route or way on land between two places to allow travel and communicate.
 
Building: A building, is a structure with a roof and walls standing in one place, such as a house or factory.
 
If you compare, buildings do not stay more than 100 years but roads do. Once a road constructed it gives unanimous approval to connect and travel forever. Buildings, on the other hand, begin to morph as soon as the owner or tenant decides they need to.
 
Roads are a platform in that sense whereas Buildings are utilities that need to be changed with age and time.
 
When creating an organization, technology or any kind of culture, the roads are worth far more than the buildings.
 
So how do we want to do things around here Roads or Buildings?

Fear of Exams

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“Fear of Exams” is it good or bad for success? The same is true for a job interview, presentation to a team, performing in front of an audience or in sports.
 
We all have been into these high-pressure situations. “The Fear” is one of the critical factors, which pushes us to fail or succeed. Is it good or bad for us to be in fear and prepare ourselves? Let’s look at Pros and Cons:
 
Advantages of “The Fear”:
#”The Fear” boosts our mind and body allowing us to focus continuously hence increasing our chances to succeed.
 
#Sometimes with the adrenaline rush of “The Fear” we solve much harder problems in these difficult situations, which might not possible in normal situations.
 
#With Practice to tackle “The Fear” it becomes easier, we stop fearing Exams (Or Interviews, etc) and grow more confident in all areas of Life.
 
Disadvantages of “The Fear”:
#If failed, we get in a state of turmoil and depression. Self-doubting ourselves, never logical thinking that our preparation might not be enough. And because of so much pressure, it leads to negative(Suicidal) thoughts. Especially, in case of the younger generation.
 
#Even if we succeed the experience is traumatic and we start avoiding it. Think about it, a job Interview even if you succeed you still remember it as a fearful experience. Avoiding interviews in future if possible. It’s more because of “The Fear” mentality than the actual interview process.
 
#”The Fear” leads to short term thinking, more driven because of social and peer pressure. We completely miss the bigger picture of life. If we want to become a programmer how does failing in one job interview hinders our goal. There are a lot of other ways to become a programmer like to become a freelancer. But since we get into “The Fear” mode we look at it as do or die situation, which is not true!!!
 
My vote is to get rid of “The Fear of Exams”. Look at life more long term with a goal (Or set of goals) and keep working towards it. We may still fail but will be more persistent and determined to succeed and achieve it. Moreover will never fear to try it again and again and hence be more successful!