We have “Mental loops” while making a decision.
Easiest way to avoid these Mental loops is to follow our core values.
Next time you have a Mental loop; Ask yourself – “Which action brings me closer to my core values?” This question aligns your choices with what matters to you most.
Use this tool whenever you have “Mental loops” for decision making.
How can you help your team learn in the flow of work? Here are three strategies to try.
Build constructive feedback.
To start, build constructive feedback into your team’s regular workflows. Allot time in meeting agendas and project calendars to consider what worked well and what would make the process and outcomes even better. Proactively showing your team what they’re doing well will increase confidence and prompt people to continue stretching their potential.
Normalise making mistakes.
Next, normalize making mistakes so employees fear them less and learn from them more. Encourage them to quickly share with someone else when they mess up, focusing on the question: What did you learn from that mistake? To model this behavior, you might start your monthly team meeting by sharing an insight you learned from a mistake you made.
Encourage experimentation.
Finally, encourage experimentation. Show your team that you’re open to their pitches and willing to prototype and pilot good ideas. You might ask: What is one idea for improvement that would support you in achieving your objectives for this quarter? To make that idea happen, what would you need to start, stop, or change? And how could you test that idea quickly? Asking your employees to think outside the box will stoke learning and development on your team.
We live two lives, one which we tell ourselves, one which we tell others.
The closer these 2 lives are the better for our conscience.
If its absolute one and single, we are at peace with ourself, and we are at peace with others.
The more the difference between these 2 lives, the more we worry, and the more our conscience weigh us down.
To be effective, leaders need their team’s trust. But how do you get that trust — and how do you get it back if you’ve lost it? Three behaviors are essential.
Demonstrate expertise and judgment.
The first behavior is to demonstrate expertise and judgment. People are more likely to trust you if they believe you have the technical know-how and the experience to make good decisions about the team’s work.
Create positive relationships.
The second is to create positive relationships with your team. There are a number of ways to do this, including helping employees cooperate, resolving conflicts between others, giving honest feedback, and checking in with people about their concerns.
Be consistent.
The last behavior is to be consistent. You must do what you say you will do. Follow through on your commitments and keep any promises you make. You don’t need to be perfect at these three behaviors to be a trusted leader — but you do need to be good at them.
There is a difference between a 0 or “Nothing”.
In “Nothing” you didn’t even try, the race doesn’t exist for you. Or you don’t exist.
In “0” you were in the race, you but failed.
Mistaking one with another can be futile because in “Nothing” you don’t have any control, whereas in “0” you can control and win.
Be wise to choose what is “Nothing” and what is “0”, so that you can focus and give all your effort to “0”.
If your days are going by and nothing is happening, build habits to focus and well-being. Add some stability to an unstable time by ensuring you have habits aligning with your long-term goals.
Divide your habits into 4 critical areas:
Personal reflection, Professional reflection, Relationships, and Health (both physical and mental). Being accountable thru habits in these areas keeps us grounded and also aligns towards long-term goals.
Creating and reinforcing habits this way can assure you that you’re doing what you need to — no matter how many things you’re juggling.
We all feel guilty at times. Why didn’t I start that project earlier? Why did I make that comment in the meeting? Why didn’t I apply for that job? While pervasive, second-guessing yourself like this can waste valuable energy. Here are three ways to stop the guilt cycle.
Unplug from your responsibilities every once in a while.
It’s not always a bad thing to chill out and do nothing. In fact, self-care is a crucial step toward achieving your goals. Don’t let your workplace or cultural norms drive you to feel guilty about not using every minute of every day to do something productive.
Take care of yourself before assisting others.
You can’t help anyone (whether it’s your boss, friend, or family member) if you’re a nervous wreck. Make time for your priorities. If you’ve chosen a path, don’t second guess yourself or be pulled off course by others’ needs.
Pay attention to how you’re affecting those around you.
Your insistence on being perfect may be spilling over into your relationships. For example, if you’re constantly pressuring yourself to perform, your team may feel guilty for not meeting your same standards.
Try and avoid hiring a friend into your company: Can a personal relationship coexist alongside a professional one? If you approach the situation carefully, it’s possible to work with each other while preserving the friendship.
First, set their expectations about whether they’re likely to get the job. Say something like, “I want to explore the possibility of our working together — but I want to be clear that it might not be a good idea.”
Next, make sure you’re comfortable saying no to the person. If you do become your friend’s boss, you’ll need to have confidence that their emotional maturity can make the dynamic work.
Last, think together about how you’d deal with difficult situations that may arise on the job. This will help both of you set the psychological boundaries you’ll need if you’re going to be coworkers in addition to friends.
Why do you think someone got a better deal than you?
Because someone tried.
Because someone kept trying.
Because someone was ready to fail.
Because someone was bold enough.
Because someone was ready to come out of their comfort zone.
Because someone was ready to call a spade a spade, accept the truth and move on.
Because someone was ready to kill the ego and work harder.
So was it luck or did you miss any of the above for your deal breaker?
Work done with love and care is long-lasting.
Work done with passion and goal is lasting.
Work done with greed and ego is short lasting.
Work done with disinterest or force is hurting not lasting.
So, let’s find work which is long hasting and it will be remembered forever.