Things won’t always go according to your expectations, don’t fret but keep fighting
Don’t ask How…
Your subordinates shouldn’t ask you How but What and Why. “How” is their responsibility.
Similarly, your seniors or bosses shouldn’t tell you How but should tell you What & Why.
You can start over…
Whatever happens the best part in life is you can start over. Even if you make terrible mistakes knowingly or unknowingly, you can hit the reset button.
So don’t worry about mistakes and live with good ethical codes for the rest you can always start over.
Be Greedy…
Be greedy. Do things that cater to yourself and your family. Get the riches, the bigger house, the bigger car.
Yes, you need motivation for everything you do. What’s the easiest and surest way of getting it? It is by being greedy.
Managing Expectations
Once you’ve set high expectations, it can be very challenging to lower them. Oversetting expectations can create pressure and lead to disappointment if not met. It’s crucial to set realistic and achievable goals to maintain trust and satisfaction.
Why do we avoid doing hard things?
At its core, we all want to do easy and fun things. But why do you think that is? Why do we want to avoid hard things?
To some extent, this is a game of dopamine. You do easy and fun things like checking your social media, or watching TV because you get high dopamine without much effort.
Look at this graph:
Here are some of the inferences from this:
- You get high dopamine with less effort in Social Media / TV etc, hence it is the easiest to do.
- In sports or exercises, if you put effort you will get dopamine; hence, you are still ready to do it.
- Hard things like studying & working on presentations etc require intense work and you don’t get immediate dopamine. Hence it is the hardest to do.
So what are the ways to do hard things?
Dopamine detox, get rid of easy ways of getting dopamine and keep away from things like social media or TV. If you can’t completely avoid it, at least have regular intervals of detoxes so that you like doing hard things even to get a lower level of dopamine.
Now if you start getting rid of access to high dopamine, you will be bored, but that’s good because then you will look for harder dopamine and will start doing good things that matter in life.
Builders are better Leaders…
Someone who knows what to build, how to build, and why to build, is a much better leader.
So build something first and you will become a better leader.
Compete with yourself…
If you constantly compete with yourself, you will always win. Instead of competing with others, focus on your own progress and strive to be better than you were yesterday. This way, you’ll stay ahead and achieve continuous improvement.
What do you want?
Whenever you’re faced with a dilemma in decision making, ask yourself this simple question: “What do you want?” Whatever answer you get, use it as your guide to move towards your goal.
How Do You Measure Progress?
How do you measure your progress? Is it through job hierarchy, financial increments, more power in your hands, or greater influence over others?
Whatever method you use—whether it’s money, power, or influence—you’ll find it exhausting. The moment you achieve one level, you’re immediately striving for the next.
Instead, try measuring progress through inner knowledge, your soul, and intrinsic values. While it’s challenging in today’s world, these metrics have lasting value. Examples include peace of mind, being close to nature, and feeling free in life. These seemingly small things truly give us life and serenity.
Many of us will continue to chase money and power, but hopefully, one day we’ll realize the importance of inner peace and fulfillment.