Praising your child for motivation – good or bad?
As parents we praise our child for almost all things, big or small …whether it’s reading books, coming first in a sports or getting good marks in exams. We, in general, keep telling them how smart they are to achieve anything. Thinking this will lead to very good motivation and help them do it again.
But ever wondered whether it’s good or bad for the child to have too much praise? or how our praise might impact them?
To understand it, let’s see how we perceive our success or failure. Recent study shows (Stanford article) how our attribution to failure or success makes a big difference. If we think we are smart and hence succeeded, a notion sets in that we are born with the skills. In case of failure we tell ourselves we are not good in this and give up easily. Whereas in both the above cases if we attribute it to hard work and learning skills, we would have succeeded much better. This Mental Attribution of failure/success is the game changer for us and what we achieve.
Now imagine if we almost always praise our kids for how smart they are? or how intelligent they are, this imparts them – How good I am and he/she thinks anything can be done without much efforts and sets a pattern. Eventhough they would have worked hard for it, we in general discount that fact while praising. Whereas if we say gr8 you have achieved this by working hard (Basically communicate it better with reasoning). This makes a big difference for them and they will be more ready to accept failure and work harder to succeed in all fields.
So dont worry about praising your child everytime as long as its done right its on! Next time if you praise your child, just consider doing a small change in how you do it!
Who to hire in your team….
“You want brave people in the side. Winning and losing keep on happening. You want good and courageous characters in the side.”
Are you too busy..
Are you too busy? Here is a litmus paper test: once or twice in a day, talking to your friends or families you will utter, I will call you back I am busy now, or sorry I am busy will call you later. Or if some good idea comes to your mind, you will say not now let me finish this task first!
Ever wondered why are we so busy, are we really working so hard or it’s just grinding into the day to day life making us busy. In both cases “Life is happening to us while we are being busy”.
Being busy makes us feel important and taking time off for ourselves makes us feel bad, feel guilty. As if not being busy we will not accomplish! We have tons of reasons to be busy.
Successfully people are not busy, they are working hard and are more productive, on a mission to accomplish things. Busy people have many priorities whereas productive people have few priorities.
Busy people want others to be busy, they want to be valued for their effort, not for their results. Productivity is about valuing the journey towards excellence, not any set of activities.
So going forward which category we want to belong to? Don’t be busy, create something amazing. That’s the best reward.
33 percent rule for life….
The rule requires you to spend 33% of your time with the people you can mentor, a third with those on your level, and a third with people who can mentor you.
And there is greater reasoning behind spending time in such proportion.
Precisely,
– As a mentor you keep helping people, and feel gratified.
– As a peer you also enjoy your success with equals and
– last but not the least, as a student you keep yourself challenging and out of comfort zone by staying with your mentors.
Just do it..
Count till 5 and do it!
Experts says that our brain is divided in two parts, autopilot mode and emergency break mode.
Most of our daily routine are in autopilot mode, like sometimes we don’t even remember that we reached office. We are so used to doing it that we do not think about it.
Whereas when asked to join for a group dance in a party we immediately apply our emergency mode saying we are not interested.
If we let both of these manage us we will never be able to come out of being mediocre self.
Hence first 5 seconds of any thought which we either are about to by pass as autopilot or reject as emergency mode is very very critical. We should just let it go and do it!
Going forward any good ideas or thoughts that you want to convert in action don’t wait, let it go in the flow and do it.
Count 1,2,3,4,5 and do it. Period
Why we work determines how well we work?
Have you ever wondered which works or tasks you perform bests? and why?
Think back and recall which task you have done at your best level and succeeded. Let me remind I am talking about tasks not playing, watching movies etc…
You will find that the task which you have done well are the once which you know the reason of doing…
For example if you are working on a product module and you know the impact of that on users, you will be much more productive on that task. Whereas if you are doing it only for earning money your performance will be driven only 70-80%..
So next time when you do a task first try to do understand why you are doing it and you will surely excel in it…
Secure People…
People who are secure talk about their own failings quite easily; Insecure people Don’t.
Sukh Bhare Din Dukh Ke Bin
Is it possible to get Sukh Bhare Din Dukh Ke Bin – Happy days without sadness?
I think it’s possible to have Sukh Bhare Din without Sadness, if we are hard working and committed to what we want or achieve in life. We need to slog, fall, get up and work again to get it, yes there will be temptations to take short cuts, to do things in achieving success faster.
But choice is always with us, achieving success in our terms is what I will call Sukh Bhare Din – Happy Days.
Why we should take all our decisions in mornings?
We should take all our decisions in morning because we are much calmer in mornings and ready to take more risks.
With more daring we make better choices for ourselves. Instead of getting influenced by negative thoughts or pessimistic approach and try to avoid difficult situations!